traits and behaviour patters as biological and there- fore as being natural and inescapable, little thought is given to the other side of the picture. What be comes of suppressed and unutilized traits and personal desires which the boy within him has? The answer varies with the individual. Some have a relatively small quota of culturally defined feminine traits, others have a great deal and the majority are spread out between the extremes. Some individuals, through various cir- cumstances, become aware of these suppressed bits of personality and have to do battle with them for much of their lives. In others, the pressure is there but it is not recognized for what it is and this results in forms of compensation or tension adjustment sometimes of a socially acceptable nature and sometimes not. In the majority the repression is more or less successful.

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But our interst centers in those who have recognized that their problems revolve around the feminine side of their nature. The term feminine identification appears often in the literature, but not so often is the concept discussed and dissected into its parts. A growing boy sees a female in three ways: (1) as the biological female, the sexual being, the mother; (2) the woman, the psychological being, a person who thinks, acts and operates on a different plane and by different methods than his father; and (3) the lady, the social creature, a person whom he must treat differently and be treated differently by than boys and men. She it is whom he begains later in adolescence and young manhood to idealize, to glorify, to idolize, and who comes to be the symbol of the good, the beautiful, the virtuous. On an animal level he mates with No. 1, the female and goes through certain premating rituals as do males of most species. After marriage he lives on a day to day basis with No.2, the psychological woman, but he really woos and courts the social being No. 3 who he has placed on a pedestal and seeks to make his own.

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The suppressed femininity within the man will be related to whichever of these three aspects of womanhood the young man was most impressed with in his growing period, and tends to be manifested in

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